Please take a look at Articles on self-defense/conflict/violence for introductions to the references found in the bibliography page.

Please take a look at my bibliography if you do not see a proper reference to a post.

Please take a look at my Notable Quotes

Hey, Attention on Deck!

Hey, NOTHING here is PERSONAL, get over it - Teach Me and I will Learn!


When you begin to feel like you are a tough guy, a warrior, a master of the martial arts or that you have lived a tough life, just take a moment and get some perspective with the following:


I've stopped knives that were coming to disembowel me

I've clawed for my gun while bullets ripped past me

I've dodged as someone tried to put an ax in my skull

I've fought screaming steel and left rubber on the road to avoid death

I've clawed broken glass out of my body after their opening attack failed

I've spit blood and body parts and broke strangle holds before gouging eyes

I've charged into fires, fought through blizzards and run from tornados

I've survived being hunted by gangs, killers and contract killers

The streets were my home, I hunted in the night and was hunted in turn


Please don't brag to me that you're a survivor because someone hit you. And don't tell me how 'tough' you are because of your training. As much as I've been through I know people who have survived much, much worse. - Marc MacYoung

WARNING, CAVEAT AND NOTE

The postings on this blog are my interpretation of readings, studies and experiences therefore errors and omissions are mine and mine alone. The content surrounding the extracts of books, see bibliography on this blog site, are also mine and mine alone therefore errors and omissions are also mine and mine alone and therefore why I highly recommended one read, study, research and fact find the material for clarity. My effort here is self-clarity toward a fuller understanding of the subject matter. See the bibliography for information on the books. Please make note that this article/post is my personal analysis of the subject and the information used was chosen or picked by me. It is not an analysis piece because it lacks complete and comprehensive research, it was not adequately and completely investigated and it is not balanced, i.e., it is my personal view without the views of others including subject experts, etc. Look at this as “Infotainment rather then expert research.” This is an opinion/editorial article/post meant to persuade the reader to think, decide and accept or reject my premise. It is an attempt to cause change or reinforce attitudes, beliefs and values as they apply to martial arts and/or self-defense. It is merely a commentary on the subject in the particular article presented.


Note: I will endevor to provide a bibliography and italicize any direct quotes from the materials I use for this blog. If there are mistakes, errors, and/or omissions, I take full responsibility for them as they are mine and mine alone. If you find any mistakes, errors, and/or omissions please comment and let me know along with the correct information and/or sources.



“What you are reading right now is a blog. It’s written and posted by me, because I want to. I get no financial remuneration for writing it. I don’t have to meet anyone’s criteria in order to post it. Not only I don’t have an employer or publisher, but I’m not even constrained by having to please an audience. If people won’t like it, they won’t read it, but I won’t lose anything by it. Provided I don’t break any laws (libel, incitement to violence, etc.), I can post whatever I want. This means that I can write openly and honestly, however controversial my opinions may be. It also means that I could write total bullshit; there is no quality control. I could be biased. I could be insane. I could be trolling. … not all sources are equivalent, and all sources have their pros and cons. These needs to be taken into account when evaluating information, and all information should be evaluated. - God’s Bastard, Sourcing Sources (this applies to this and other blogs by me as well; if you follow the idea's, advice or information you are on your own, don't come crying to me, it is all on you do do the work to make sure it works for you!)



“You should prepare yourself to dedicate at least five or six years to your training and practice to understand the philosophy and physiokinetics of martial arts and karate so that you can understand the true spirit of everything and dedicate your mind, body and spirit to the discipline of the art.” - cejames (note: you are on your own, make sure you get expert hands-on guidance in all things martial and self-defense)



“All I say is by way of discourse, and nothing by way of advice. I should not speak so boldly if it were my due to be believed.” - Montaigne


I am not a leading authority on any one discipline that I write about and teach, it is my hope and wish that with all the subjects I have studied it provides me an advantage point that I offer in as clear and cohesive writings as possible in introducing the matters in my materials. I hope to serve as one who inspires direction in the practitioner so they can go on to discover greater teachers and professionals that will build on this fundamental foundation. Find the authorities and synthesize a wholehearted and holistic concept, perception and belief that will not drive your practices but rather inspire them to evolve, grow and prosper. My efforts are born of those who are more experienced and knowledgable than I. I hope you find that path! See the bibliography I provide for an initial list of experts, professionals and masters of the subjects.

Being an Asshole 💩

Iyanayatsu ni naru [嫌な奴になる]

 - Alfonz Ingram & cejames


Throughout research on self-defense, defense, it has been said and written, "Don't be an ASSHOLE!" For instance, when dealing with law enforcement the very first and foremost of importance in surviving the encounter is, "Don't be an ASSHOLE!"


In that light I felt it wise to find out, generally speaking, what asshole means. Here you go:


The term “asshole” has been analyzed in both popular culture and academic contexts, referring to a person whose behavior is selfish, insensitive, or antagonistic


Philosopher Aaron James explores this concept deeply in his book Assholes: A Theory, defining such individuals as those who feel “entitled to special treatment” and “immunized against the complaints of others.” James argues that an “asshole” operates with a sense of moral impunity, violating social norms without guilt, feeling justified in treating others poorly because they see themselves as uniquely deserving of privileges others do not have.


1. Sense of Entitlement: According to James, an asshole sees themselves as above the rules that govern everyone else. This sense of entitlement means they often dismiss feedback or critique, assuming they are exempt from norms of respect or fairness. Their actions might involve cutting in line, disregarding social etiquette, or treating service workers poorly, assuming these behaviors are acceptable for them.

2. Lack of Empathy or Perspective-Taking: Psychologists have studied individuals with traits associated with “asshole” behavior, often linking it to narcissistic or antisocial personality traits. Studies on narcissism, for example, show that people with these traits may lack empathy and struggle to see situations from others’ perspectives, leading to behavior perceived as arrogant, dismissive, or condescending.

3. Resistance to Self-Reflection: Another characteristic is a lack of introspection; individuals who consistently act in ways others find disruptive or hurtful often avoid self-reflection, instead rationalizing their behavior as justified. This resistance is often reinforced by defensiveness or denial, and they might blame others or society rather than consider their own impact on others.

4. Effect on Social and Workplace Environments: Research on “toxic” behaviors in workplaces has shown that individuals who act inconsiderately or disrespectfully can lower group morale and productivity, even leading to what psychologists term “emotional contagion,” where their negative behavior influences the mood and behavior of others around them.


These traits often lead to strained relationships and negative perceptions, as their behavior breaches social norms that are fundamental to cooperative living.

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