Please take a look at Articles on self-defense/conflict/violence for introductions to the references found in the bibliography page.

Please take a look at my bibliography if you do not see a proper reference to a post.

Please take a look at my Notable Quotes

Hey, Attention on Deck!

Hey, NOTHING here is PERSONAL, get over it - Teach Me and I will Learn!


When you begin to feel like you are a tough guy, a warrior, a master of the martial arts or that you have lived a tough life, just take a moment and get some perspective with the following:


I've stopped knives that were coming to disembowel me

I've clawed for my gun while bullets ripped past me

I've dodged as someone tried to put an ax in my skull

I've fought screaming steel and left rubber on the road to avoid death

I've clawed broken glass out of my body after their opening attack failed

I've spit blood and body parts and broke strangle holds before gouging eyes

I've charged into fires, fought through blizzards and run from tornados

I've survived being hunted by gangs, killers and contract killers

The streets were my home, I hunted in the night and was hunted in turn


Please don't brag to me that you're a survivor because someone hit you. And don't tell me how 'tough' you are because of your training. As much as I've been through I know people who have survived much, much worse. - Marc MacYoung

WARNING, CAVEAT AND NOTE

The postings on this blog are my interpretation of readings, studies and experiences therefore errors and omissions are mine and mine alone. The content surrounding the extracts of books, see bibliography on this blog site, are also mine and mine alone therefore errors and omissions are also mine and mine alone and therefore why I highly recommended one read, study, research and fact find the material for clarity. My effort here is self-clarity toward a fuller understanding of the subject matter. See the bibliography for information on the books. Please make note that this article/post is my personal analysis of the subject and the information used was chosen or picked by me. It is not an analysis piece because it lacks complete and comprehensive research, it was not adequately and completely investigated and it is not balanced, i.e., it is my personal view without the views of others including subject experts, etc. Look at this as “Infotainment rather then expert research.” This is an opinion/editorial article/post meant to persuade the reader to think, decide and accept or reject my premise. It is an attempt to cause change or reinforce attitudes, beliefs and values as they apply to martial arts and/or self-defense. It is merely a commentary on the subject in the particular article presented.


Note: I will endevor to provide a bibliography and italicize any direct quotes from the materials I use for this blog. If there are mistakes, errors, and/or omissions, I take full responsibility for them as they are mine and mine alone. If you find any mistakes, errors, and/or omissions please comment and let me know along with the correct information and/or sources.



“What you are reading right now is a blog. It’s written and posted by me, because I want to. I get no financial remuneration for writing it. I don’t have to meet anyone’s criteria in order to post it. Not only I don’t have an employer or publisher, but I’m not even constrained by having to please an audience. If people won’t like it, they won’t read it, but I won’t lose anything by it. Provided I don’t break any laws (libel, incitement to violence, etc.), I can post whatever I want. This means that I can write openly and honestly, however controversial my opinions may be. It also means that I could write total bullshit; there is no quality control. I could be biased. I could be insane. I could be trolling. … not all sources are equivalent, and all sources have their pros and cons. These needs to be taken into account when evaluating information, and all information should be evaluated.” - God’s Bastard, Sourcing Sources (this applies to this and other blogs by me as well; if you follow the idea's, advice or information you are on your own, don't come crying to me, it is all on you do do the work to make sure it works for you!)



“You should prepare yourself to dedicate at least five or six years to your training and practice to understand the philosophy and physiokinetics of martial arts and karate so that you can understand the true spirit of everything and dedicate your mind, body and spirit to the discipline of the art.” - cejames (note: you are on your own, make sure you get expert hands-on guidance in all things martial and self-defense)



“All I say is by way of discourse, and nothing by way of advice. I should not speak so boldly if it were my due to be believed.” - Montaigne


I am not a leading authority on any one discipline that I write about and teach, it is my hope and wish that with all the subjects I have studied it provides me an advantage point that I offer in as clear and cohesive writings as possible in introducing the matters in my materials. I hope to serve as one who inspires direction in the practitioner so they can go on to discover greater teachers and professionals that will build on this fundamental foundation. Find the authorities and synthesize a wholehearted and holistic concept, perception and belief that will not drive your practices but rather inspire them to evolve, grow and prosper. My efforts are born of those who are more experienced and knowledgable than I. I hope you find that path! See the bibliography I provide for an initial list of experts, professionals and masters of the subjects.

Persuasion - It Truly Matters

Blog Article/Post Caveat (Read First Please: Click the Link)

We, of the karate and self-protection persuasion, talk a lot about deescalation in self-defense but seldom is it obvious that we actually teach something of substance. In the following notes there will be lessons, remember my article, "The First Lesson?" that one can take to task in learning how to truly avoid violence and violent situations. 

First, it's about people and how people interact with one another. 


Note: Once you encounter where a persons tone or demeanor is perceived as critical - look for the discomfort in the situation - that person(s) are already in a "defensive position." They will feel a strong compelling urge to defend their position, there freedom to do what they want if you will. If you approach one with the same, you are going to fail. 


When you encounter people and situations of a critical highly stressful situations immediately set your tone of voice to a soothing process, i.e., when you speak use a tone and cadence that is of pitch that gently rises to asking questions of curiosity and falls to apply a feeling of calm reassurance. Above all, actively and truly listen to the person(s). To NOT put blame anywhere, especially on the person(s) and/or situation(s). 


Allow yourself to be perceived as vulnerable by flipping the problem on yourself and then admit your concerns to apply how you can overcome the problems. You can also actively listen to their perspective, draw them and that perspective out in the open - get them talking to you about it and then LISTEN. Show your understanding and appreciation for their plight. Remember, be and remain "non-confrontational" in sharing your thoughts on that something. 


Mirroring is a concept and trait of an active listener. Repeat in your own words back to them, lay it out in a non-threatening way so they can hear you reflect, mirror, back to them their feelings. You want to influence behavior, let that person make the decision to change then let them. You do this by remaining non-threatening and non-aggressive. Stay calm and patient and understanding and then acknowledge their points of view, ask them to consider thinking a little differently and believe you are doing the best that you can do. 


What matters most regarding the first lesson is that your mind, mind-set and mind-state must be such that one’s ego is suppressed so that one’s character dominates. Once we learn that then the greatest obstacle to our self-protection and self-preservation is gone and then we can truly focus on what matters such as the suggestions contained in my articles/posts. 


What follows is the article that inspired this process. 


https://www.sfgate.com/news/article/mask-etiquette-coronavirus-covid19-fbi-hostage-15416464.php


For reference and sources and professionals go here: Bibliography (Click the link)

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