Kitai [期待] Expectation; Anticipation; Hope
Expectations are those goals, objectives and milestones we set for, ‘ourselves,’ and when we project expectations on others we set obstacles to our expectations of and for ourselves. Expectations for others is merely a way to self-destruct expectations for ourselves thus sabotaging our goals, objectives and milestones toward success and growth and enlightenment.
Expectations are what humans do, it is necessary to set expectations of ourselves in order to grow and evolve as humans. It is a self-imposed requirement, our hopes are set to this standard, of what we hope to attain, learn and understand that create concepts that morph our beliefs, perceptions and experiences that without our ability to cope with the stressors of life and social realities would be untenable.
When we project expectations onto others we are passing those expectations so that we can give ourselves an out when we fail to live up to them. Putting failure onto expectations simply is a way to not work hard and to expect failure. When we expect others to achieve our expectations we give ourselves permission to fail then use the excuse to act, feel and perceive things through dark glasses and half empty ‘vs’ half full containers.
Most of our emotional feelings are about expectations that are set too high, also a way to set up failure before actions are taken to meet the expectations, and that comes back to principles of philosophy wherein a person through experiences and ‘baby steps’ sets expectations that are reasonable and fit within the current experiences and understandings that allow for change, growth and potential rather than static, stagnate and failed attempts.
Kitai is therefore a part of our philosophical beliefs, learnings, experiences and understanding that must accept that projecting expectations is failure while setting rational and reasonable expectations that change with both success and failure as learning tools takes projected responsibility and sets it square where it belongs, on our shoulders and our shoulders alone.
Kitai, expectations, we own them and we must stop using projected expectations of others to excuse our failures thus taking full and complete responsibility for all our expectations.