Please take a look at Articles on self-defense/conflict/violence for introductions to the references found in the bibliography page.

Please take a look at my bibliography if you do not see a proper reference to a post.

Please take a look at my Notable Quotes

Hey, Attention on Deck!

Hey, NOTHING here is PERSONAL, get over it - Teach Me and I will Learn!

When you begin to feel like you are a tough guy, a warrior, a master of the martial arts or that you have lived a tough life, just take a moment and get some perspective with the following:

I've stopped knives that were coming to disembowel me

I've clawed for my gun while bullets ripped past me

I've dodged as someone tried to put an ax in my skull

I've fought screaming steel and left rubber on the road to avoid death

I've clawed broken glass out of my body after their opening attack failed

I've spit blood and body parts and broke strangle holds before gouging eyes

I've charged into fires, fought through blizzards and run from tornados

I've survived being hunted by gangs, killers and contract killers

The streets were my home, I hunted in the night and was hunted in turn

Please don't brag to me that you're a survivor because someone hit you. And don't tell me how 'tough' you are because of your training. As much as I've been through I know people who have survived much, much worse. - Marc MacYoung


The postings on this blog are my interpretation of readings, studies and experiences therefore errors and omissions are mine and mine alone. The content surrounding the extracts of books, see bibliography on this blog site, are also mine and mine alone therefore errors and omissions are also mine and mine alone and therefore why I highly recommended one read, study, research and fact find the material for clarity. My effort here is self-clarity toward a fuller understanding of the subject matter. See the bibliography for information on the books. Please make note that this article/post is my personal analysis of the subject and the information used was chosen or picked by me. It is not an analysis piece because it lacks complete and comprehensive research, it was not adequately and completely investigated and it is not balanced, i.e., it is my personal view without the views of others including subject experts, etc. Look at this as “Infotainment rather then expert research.” This is an opinion/editorial article/post meant to persuade the reader to think, decide and accept or reject my premise. It is an attempt to cause change or reinforce attitudes, beliefs and values as they apply to martial arts and/or self-defense. It is merely a commentary on the subject in the particular article presented.

Note: I will endevor to provide a bibliography and italicize any direct quotes from the materials I use for this blog. If there are mistakes, errors, and/or omissions, I take full responsibility for them as they are mine and mine alone. If you find any mistakes, errors, and/or omissions please comment and let me know along with the correct information and/or sources.

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“You should prepare yourself to dedicate at least five or six years to your training and practice to understand the philosophy and physiokinetics of martial arts and karate so that you can understand the true spirit of everything and dedicate your mind, body and spirit to the discipline of the art.” - cejames (note: you are on your own, make sure you get expert hands-on guidance in all things martial and self-defense)

“All I say is by way of discourse, and nothing by way of advice. I should not speak so boldly if it were my due to be believed.” - Montaigne

I am not a leading authority on any one discipline that I write about and teach, it is my hope and wish that with all the subjects I have studied it provides me an advantage point that I offer in as clear and cohesive writings as possible in introducing the matters in my materials. I hope to serve as one who inspires direction in the practitioner so they can go on to discover greater teachers and professionals that will build on this fundamental foundation. Find the authorities and synthesize a wholehearted and holistic concept, perception and belief that will not drive your practices but rather inspire them to evolve, grow and prosper. My efforts are born of those who are more experienced and knowledgable than I. I hope you find that path! See the bibliography I provide for an initial list of experts, professionals and masters of the subjects.

NOTES - Feelings

Blog Article/Post Caveat (Read First Please: Click the Link)

How often does one, either sensei or deshi, talk about emotions, feelings and moods in regard to how they apply their skills in self-protection for self-defense? Not many and it may be because that is socially and personally the realm of those who provide help such as psychologists, etc.

To really understand ourselves and those who may want to do us physical violent harm we really have to understand these emotions, feelings and moods but with strong attachment to their cultures and beliefs because when it comes to status and respect those things matter - a lot. 

So, the following are notes and comments from a source I used to try and understand emotions, feelings and moods so that I can see them and understand them in myself, i.e., such as when someone says something that pisses me off, so that I may also see them in others especially others who want to cause me harm. 

If you truly want to self-protect in self-defense then your emotions felt in your self must be recognized for what they are and that they trigger the worst of our monkey-minds so that we may better avoid situations and people that would result in conflicts, of the bad kind, and resulting violences, of the bad kind, that would allow us to say and do the things necessary to achieve: avoidance, escape-n-evasion, deescalation. Let the healing begin: 

When they talk about allowing oneself to have feelings, they are not talking about showing them, let alone doing anything about them. They are referring to the internal, private experience of feeling something. As if you were in a public place, feeling something. 

Remember, there is a lot of room for feeling on the inside, without doing anything about it on the outside. Any and every emotion can be safely felt, without you or anyone else being harmed in the process. 

It must be noted that experience, in moderation, positive feelings and emotions publicly often can be a good thing because as research has shown feelings and emotions are contagious. It is the negative side that must be guarded from outward expression because those tend to spread faster and with more detrimental effects like in group dynamics where bad vibes can infect others and they can do bad things even those who are good people at their core. 

Both acting out and managing feelings produce the same outcomes: anxiety, alienation, emptiness, and depression. If you are NOT familiar with your emotions, you are likely to end up 'thinking' instead of 'feeling', using your head instead of your heart. 

Using "I feel" 

Just because you use the words at the beginning of a sentence does not mean you are describing an actual feeling. "Anything you describe using the words 'I feel (that),' followed by a complete sentence, is NOT a feeling." (Note: often it is thought by those who are experts that to use the phrase “I feel” provides a sense that one is actually, tactilely feeling, something viscerally. As if they are touching something while giving a sense of actual emotional feelings, i.e., as if supporting that feeling, etc.)

"I feel that you are being unfair." is NOT a feeling. "You are being unfair" is a complete sentence that represents a THOUGHT, not a FEELING. Statements that start with "I feel like" often describe thoughts rather than feelings. (Note: they are also about tactile sensory feelings) 

Use the substitute test: If you can change the words "I feel" into a statement to "I Think" without changing any other words, and still be left with a meaningful sentence, you have described a though and NOT a feeling. 

EMOTIONS are not usually identified by complete sentences. They are generally described in a short word or phrase. If you say, "I feel scared." and substitute "I think scared" then you were expressing a feeling. The substitution does not work because I think scared is not a good sentence; you can not think a feeling any more than you can feel a thought. 

Feelings vs. Behavior (actions): With feelings, we do NOT have to act on them in order to experience them. Being angry is NOT the same as shouting, cursing, or getting physical. Shouting, cursing, and getting physical are actions as opposed to feelings. It is perfectly possible to be extremely angry and yet not break anything, hurt anyone, or turn Facebook into a weapon. 

Millions of folks experience emotions every day without taking action; emotions do NOT inevitably lead to action. Most of us DID NOT learn as children how to deal constructively with difficult emotions, we worry that just allowing ourselves to experience a feeling means we will - or should - act it out, with negative consequences. This is often reinforced by social media. We hear regularly about people action on feelings of rage, hatred, fear, or despair to end up in prison or dead. 


We are social beings, we do need to be able to manage our behavior, not necessarily feelings. We ARE capable of acting differently from how we feel, we DO NOT need to try to keep a stranglehold on "negative" emotions. We don't need to suppress, discard or hide our feelings from ourselves. Don't be your own oppressor, let yourself - and your feelings - be. 

DO NOT CONFUSE strong emotions with being out of control. Be more accepting of your feelings and you will feel more in control of yourself, not less. It is counterintuitive, but it is true!

FEELINGS ARE NOT VALUES. If you feel indignant about something, it is not because you are an indignant person. You are just indignant about this particular thing. ACCEPT IT. Do not make a big moral dilemma out of having an unpleasant feeling. 

Relax, let yourself off the hood if you feel annoyed, irritated, resentful, envious, angry, etc. etc. etc. You are NOT a bad person just because you have the kinds of emotions that usually underlie bad behavior. Everyone is subject to the same emotions - good, bad, and in between. It has NOTHING to do with our MORAL character. 

Judge yourself by your actions, by all means, because they can be good or bad, moral or immoral. Actions almost always involve making choices. Feelings NEVER DO!

For reference and sources and professionals go here: Bibliography (Click the link)

1 comment:

John Vesia said...

Interesting. It's true only intentions lead to action; feelings or desire alone, not so much.
Somewhat relevant: was just watching a podcast featuring Aubrey de Grey, a gerontologist (study of aging). He claims the common feature of centenarians is that they don't let things bother them. Apparently the ability to manage stress is key to making it to 100.