Please take a look at Articles on self-defense/conflict/violence for introductions to the references found in the bibliography page.

Please take a look at my bibliography if you do not see a proper reference to a post.

Please take a look at my Notable Quotes

Hey, Attention on Deck!

Hey, NOTHING here is PERSONAL, get over it - Teach Me and I will Learn!

When you begin to feel like you are a tough guy, a warrior, a master of the martial arts or that you have lived a tough life, just take a moment and get some perspective with the following:

I've stopped knives that were coming to disembowel me

I've clawed for my gun while bullets ripped past me

I've dodged as someone tried to put an ax in my skull

I've fought screaming steel and left rubber on the road to avoid death

I've clawed broken glass out of my body after their opening attack failed

I've spit blood and body parts and broke strangle holds before gouging eyes

I've charged into fires, fought through blizzards and run from tornados

I've survived being hunted by gangs, killers and contract killers

The streets were my home, I hunted in the night and was hunted in turn

Please don't brag to me that you're a survivor because someone hit you. And don't tell me how 'tough' you are because of your training. As much as I've been through I know people who have survived much, much worse. - Marc MacYoung


The postings on this blog are my interpretation of readings, studies and experiences therefore errors and omissions are mine and mine alone. The content surrounding the extracts of books, see bibliography on this blog site, are also mine and mine alone therefore errors and omissions are also mine and mine alone and therefore why I highly recommended one read, study, research and fact find the material for clarity. My effort here is self-clarity toward a fuller understanding of the subject matter. See the bibliography for information on the books. Please make note that this article/post is my personal analysis of the subject and the information used was chosen or picked by me. It is not an analysis piece because it lacks complete and comprehensive research, it was not adequately and completely investigated and it is not balanced, i.e., it is my personal view without the views of others including subject experts, etc. Look at this as “Infotainment rather then expert research.” This is an opinion/editorial article/post meant to persuade the reader to think, decide and accept or reject my premise. It is an attempt to cause change or reinforce attitudes, beliefs and values as they apply to martial arts and/or self-defense. It is merely a commentary on the subject in the particular article presented.

Note: I will endevor to provide a bibliography and italicize any direct quotes from the materials I use for this blog. If there are mistakes, errors, and/or omissions, I take full responsibility for them as they are mine and mine alone. If you find any mistakes, errors, and/or omissions please comment and let me know along with the correct information and/or sources.

“What you are reading right now is a blog. It’s written and posted by me, because I want to. I get no financial remuneration for writing it. I don’t have to meet anyone’s criteria in order to post it. Not only I don’t have an employer or publisher, but I’m not even constrained by having to please an audience. If people won’t like it, they won’t read it, but I won’t lose anything by it. Provided I don’t break any laws (libel, incitement to violence, etc.), I can post whatever I want. This means that I can write openly and honestly, however controversial my opinions may be. It also means that I could write total bullshit; there is no quality control. I could be biased. I could be insane. I could be trolling. … not all sources are equivalent, and all sources have their pros and cons. These needs to be taken into account when evaluating information, and all information should be evaluated. - God’s Bastard, Sourcing Sources (this applies to this and other blogs by me as well; if you follow the idea's, advice or information you are on your own, don't come crying to me, it is all on you do do the work to make sure it works for you!)

“You should prepare yourself to dedicate at least five or six years to your training and practice to understand the philosophy and physiokinetics of martial arts and karate so that you can understand the true spirit of everything and dedicate your mind, body and spirit to the discipline of the art.” - cejames (note: you are on your own, make sure you get expert hands-on guidance in all things martial and self-defense)

“All I say is by way of discourse, and nothing by way of advice. I should not speak so boldly if it were my due to be believed.” - Montaigne

I am not a leading authority on any one discipline that I write about and teach, it is my hope and wish that with all the subjects I have studied it provides me an advantage point that I offer in as clear and cohesive writings as possible in introducing the matters in my materials. I hope to serve as one who inspires direction in the practitioner so they can go on to discover greater teachers and professionals that will build on this fundamental foundation. Find the authorities and synthesize a wholehearted and holistic concept, perception and belief that will not drive your practices but rather inspire them to evolve, grow and prosper. My efforts are born of those who are more experienced and knowledgable than I. I hope you find that path! See the bibliography I provide for an initial list of experts, professionals and masters of the subjects.

PERSPECTIVE: Grudges Anyone...

Blog Article/Post Caveat (Read First Please: Click the Link)

Extracted from On Apology by Aaron Lazare: a solid source to learn about people and how things like apologies, if done right, along with things like “grudges” all help us understand others leading toward a better ability and skill set to avoid and deescalate things before they become, dangerous. In addition, it helps in every day encounters with others. 

Humiliation (Kutsujoku [屈辱]), anyone who has experienced it can easily identify the components of the reaction as follows:
  1. Immediately following the offense, one feels “stunned or blindsided” for several minutes. 
  2. Thoughts about the event seem to multiply, intensify, and persist leaving one annoyed and perplexed. 
  3. One often experiences a sense of powerlessness, 
    • a feeling that there is little or nothing one can do to change things.
  4. Anger follows, often, the humiliation offense - humiliating rage - is intense and distressing. 
    • behaviors motivated by the rage like sending a nasty email, an outburst of anger, terminating a relationship, threatening psychological and/or physical harm that will seem rational and appropriate… at the time, while as time passes and we calm down that irrational behavior and feeling becomes evident to us. 
Grudges are a form of residual or dormant anger, a combination of resentment and memory that continues for a long time after the offense occurred and forgotten. It takes very little to return to that residual anger and memory into the full blown rage that ensued the original event. 

Grudges are common in every day life and it is possible to find long-standing grudges in most extended families, groups and social constructs. It may appear to an outsider as trivial. 

War, according to one historian, “has three causes, i.e., honor, fear, and interest.” - Donald Kagan. We as a species tend to understand honor to mean, “deference, esteem, just due, regard, respect, and/or prestige.” Assaults on honor are understood and believed to be humiliations. The single most understood effect of humiliation is conflict and violence. 

It is very hard to detect another humiliation because it can be humiliating to acknowledge or express or project one’s humiliation. We humans do NOT or are RELUCTANT to admit a loss of standing, or powerlessness, at the hands of others. We tend to want to appear strong and unaffected by the offense, while seething with anger and just waiting for an opportunity to get even. 

It is critical to avoidance and deescalation efforts to be aware of situations that can cause other to feel humiliated so the list that follows is a guide to that understanding:
  1. Are you overlooking or taking another for granted?
  2. Are you rejecting them?
  3. Are you denying others of social amenities?
  4. Are you manipulating or treating others like an object?
  5. Are you treating others unfairly?
  6. Are you verbally abusing others?
  7. Are you causing others to feel a loss of  status or role? 
  8. Are you betraying them?
  9. Are you falsely accusing them?
  10. Are you causing them to feel psychologically or physically threatened? 
  11. Are you physically or sexually abusing them?
  12. Are you denigrating their beliefs or affiliations? 
  13. Are you violating their boundaries or are you violating their privacy? 
  14. Are you excluding them from the group?

Use this list to help understand human nature and then avoid being an asshole, i.e., avoid humiliating others then consider an appropriate response, words or actions or both, such as responding with an appropriate apology. 

For reference and sources and professionals go here: Bibliography (Click the link)

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