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Seito-ka [正当化] the English translation is "justification; warrant," and the first character translates to English as, "correct; justice; righteous," the second as, "hit; right; appropriate; himself," and the third as, "change; take the form of; influence; enchant; delude."
The following are definitions of the term in English as defined by the language and attached cultural social influences.
The act or an instance of justifying something; an acceptable reason for doing something; something that justifies an act or way of behaving that often is not true or deliberately false to satisfy one's dissonance and biases.
The point is not to get defensive, not to blame other people, not to offer a million and six justifications for our actions and/or words, i.e., "the fact that something’s always been done in a certain way provides little justification in and of itself for staying the course."
This of course comes down to human innate drives to justify what we say, do and so on and that brings up the concepts of both cognizant dissonance and biases like confirmation bias. Where this comes to light in self-protection is our instinctual-like need to be right and how we justify that rightness in our thoughts, words and deeds. You can imagine how this attaches to our ego’s and how all of that can drive escalation or our passing the attackers interview process making us his or her target.
This and other discussions along with some adequate and efficient way to train it into our self-protection programs as you already know can lead us toward a path that avoids and in some cases leads to deescalation with, as you can imagine, avoiding the aggressions and resulting violences.
When in a situation it is best to learn our triggers and glitches that make the monkey in our brain scream and shout so that we may STOP the process and take other more appropriate steps toward avoidance, etc. One way to look at a situation that is getting heated is to be polite, say your sorry or apologize as appropriate and then consider, “what could this person be experiencing and how are they justifying their actions and words along with what is it about all this that this person may be right to consider their side over just our own biases and dissonance triggering our own justifications leading to the wrong end results, think about this.
In short:
Miller's Law: "In order to understand what another person is saying, you must assume that it is true and try to imagine what it could be true of." - Dr. George Miller, Psychologist.
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If your monkey/tribal brain is working your human/thinking brain is not.
If you are feeling emotion, you are not thinking; that part of your brain is turned off.
If it is about who did or said it and not what was said, you are in your tribal brain.
If you label anyone, it is a tactic to put that person in another tribe specifically so that you don't have to listen to the content.
People who disagree with you are rarely stupid. If you cannot effectively, compassionately and convincingly argue the other side's point of view, you are the one in your tribal brain. You are the stupid one. - Rory Miller at Chiron Blog "Silly Season"
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