- Tendency toward a strict hierarchical structure, with the male holding the higher status and the first born son also holding such status.
- Males holding higher value simply because of the perception that they carry on the family name, i.e., lineage.
- Females due to a perception of less importance to the family and tribe hold a lessor role.
- The female role is passive and must adhere to the husband’s family, be subservient to the males, do the domestic thing and of course bear male children.
- The male role is as a provider to the family and to the tribe or group, to be a good son; obligations to be a father and good husband second as to obligation over the duty as a son.
- The patriarchal husband-wife relationship.
- Respect for ancestors and the elderly who hold a special status in the family and group.
- Loyalty beyond reproach to authority figures.
- One way communications, i.e., adults speak to children.
- An obligation toward collectivism with a family and group focus toward interdependence.
- Family is central and the primary social unit, group or tribe.
- Behavior of the individual reflects on the entire family and group where harmony is paramount.
- The group is about discipline where shame and guilt are used for control and to train children.
- Loyalty and honor to family while avoiding shame and embarrassment is required.
- Problems are hidden and avoided publicly and handled within the family and group.
- Mental issues outside the culture of harmony, loyalty, etc.s are shameful and represents failure.
- Emotional traits are not displayed and when controlled and hidden are seen as a sign of maturity and self-control.
- Care and concern are demonstrated by meeting physical needs.
- Males, especially fathers, are authoritative and distant, showing hardly any emotions, and primary duties involve providing for the family and groups economic and physical needs.
- Females, the mothers, are more responsive to offspring but with less nurturing and more verbal and physical punishments; they meet emotional needs of children and server as an intermediary with the father.
When you begin to feel like you are a tough guy, a warrior, a master of the martial arts or that you have lived a tough life, just take a moment and get some perspective with the following:
I've stopped knives that were coming to disembowel me
I've clawed for my gun while bullets ripped past me
I've dodged as someone tried to put an ax in my skull
I've fought screaming steel and left rubber on the road to avoid death
I've clawed broken glass out of my body after their opening attack failed
I've spit blood and body parts and broke strangle holds before gouging eyes
I've charged into fires, fought through blizzards and run from tornados
I've survived being hunted by gangs, killers and contract killers
The streets were my home, I hunted in the night and was hunted in turn
Please don't brag to me that you're a survivor because someone hit you. And don't tell me how 'tough' you are because of your training. As much as I've been through I know people who have survived much, much worse. - Marc MacYoung
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