Please take a look at Articles on self-defense/conflict/violence for introductions to the references found in the bibliography page.

Please take a look at my bibliography if you do not see a proper reference to a post.

Please take a look at my Notable Quotes

Hey, Attention on Deck!

Hey, NOTHING here is PERSONAL, get over it - Teach Me and I will Learn!


When you begin to feel like you are a tough guy, a warrior, a master of the martial arts or that you have lived a tough life, just take a moment and get some perspective with the following:


I've stopped knives that were coming to disembowel me

I've clawed for my gun while bullets ripped past me

I've dodged as someone tried to put an ax in my skull

I've fought screaming steel and left rubber on the road to avoid death

I've clawed broken glass out of my body after their opening attack failed

I've spit blood and body parts and broke strangle holds before gouging eyes

I've charged into fires, fought through blizzards and run from tornados

I've survived being hunted by gangs, killers and contract killers

The streets were my home, I hunted in the night and was hunted in turn


Please don't brag to me that you're a survivor because someone hit you. And don't tell me how 'tough' you are because of your training. As much as I've been through I know people who have survived much, much worse. - Marc MacYoung

WARNING, CAVEAT AND NOTE

The postings on this blog are my interpretation of readings, studies and experiences therefore errors and omissions are mine and mine alone. The content surrounding the extracts of books, see bibliography on this blog site, are also mine and mine alone therefore errors and omissions are also mine and mine alone and therefore why I highly recommended one read, study, research and fact find the material for clarity. My effort here is self-clarity toward a fuller understanding of the subject matter. See the bibliography for information on the books. Please make note that this article/post is my personal analysis of the subject and the information used was chosen or picked by me. It is not an analysis piece because it lacks complete and comprehensive research, it was not adequately and completely investigated and it is not balanced, i.e., it is my personal view without the views of others including subject experts, etc. Look at this as “Infotainment rather then expert research.” This is an opinion/editorial article/post meant to persuade the reader to think, decide and accept or reject my premise. It is an attempt to cause change or reinforce attitudes, beliefs and values as they apply to martial arts and/or self-defense. It is merely a commentary on the subject in the particular article presented.


Note: I will endevor to provide a bibliography and italicize any direct quotes from the materials I use for this blog. If there are mistakes, errors, and/or omissions, I take full responsibility for them as they are mine and mine alone. If you find any mistakes, errors, and/or omissions please comment and let me know along with the correct information and/or sources.



“What you are reading right now is a blog. It’s written and posted by me, because I want to. I get no financial remuneration for writing it. I don’t have to meet anyone’s criteria in order to post it. Not only I don’t have an employer or publisher, but I’m not even constrained by having to please an audience. If people won’t like it, they won’t read it, but I won’t lose anything by it. Provided I don’t break any laws (libel, incitement to violence, etc.), I can post whatever I want. This means that I can write openly and honestly, however controversial my opinions may be. It also means that I could write total bullshit; there is no quality control. I could be biased. I could be insane. I could be trolling. … not all sources are equivalent, and all sources have their pros and cons. These needs to be taken into account when evaluating information, and all information should be evaluated. - God’s Bastard, Sourcing Sources (this applies to this and other blogs by me as well; if you follow the idea's, advice or information you are on your own, don't come crying to me, it is all on you do do the work to make sure it works for you!)



“You should prepare yourself to dedicate at least five or six years to your training and practice to understand the philosophy and physiokinetics of martial arts and karate so that you can understand the true spirit of everything and dedicate your mind, body and spirit to the discipline of the art.” - cejames (note: you are on your own, make sure you get expert hands-on guidance in all things martial and self-defense)



“All I say is by way of discourse, and nothing by way of advice. I should not speak so boldly if it were my due to be believed.” - Montaigne


I am not a leading authority on any one discipline that I write about and teach, it is my hope and wish that with all the subjects I have studied it provides me an advantage point that I offer in as clear and cohesive writings as possible in introducing the matters in my materials. I hope to serve as one who inspires direction in the practitioner so they can go on to discover greater teachers and professionals that will build on this fundamental foundation. Find the authorities and synthesize a wholehearted and holistic concept, perception and belief that will not drive your practices but rather inspire them to evolve, grow and prosper. My efforts are born of those who are more experienced and knowledgable than I. I hope you find that path! See the bibliography I provide for an initial list of experts, professionals and masters of the subjects.

Feelings, Assumptions and Speculation

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Please make note that this article/post is my personal analysis of the subject and the information used was chosen or picked by me. It is not an analysis piece because it lacks complete and comprehensive research, it was not adequately and completely investigated and it is not balanced, i.e., it is my personal view without the views of others including subject experts, etc. Look at this as “Infotainment rather then expert research.” This is an opinion/editorial article/post meant to persuade the reader to think, decide and accept or reject my premise. It is an attempt to cause change or reinforce attitudes, beliefs and values as they apply to martial arts and/or self-defense. It is merely a commentary on the subject in the particular article presented.

Emotions are deadly, they often lead to monkey like behavior and all tied to things that you “cannot put in a wheelbarrow (semi-quote from Marc MacYoung’s book INOSD).” Emotions are tied to feelings, how we feel about something said or done “to us” tends to send the monkey on a binge of emotional tsunami’s. Those huge waves pushed high by said emotions along with the adrenal flood that comes from such emotional tidal waves.

Those feelings and their baggage often die out when things settle down unless your monkey decides this ride is like a cool roller coaster ride and allows your assumptions and speculations to give fuel to those emotions. We will make assumptions as to the why and what kind of perceived slight that may or may not have caused. Then we speculate as to what the person may or may not do to escalate into a higher level of conflict especially if we allow our speculations, our assumptions and our feelings to escalate the ride from a roller coaster to a high speed chase down the highway of violence (another quasi-quote from Marc MacYoung’s INOSD). 

When I speak toward avoidance as a self-defense goal I often tend to think of how I can rein in my feelings, my emotions and my monkey brain tendency to see, hear and feel evil in things others say that in reality have noting to do with me but tend to be a projection of that persons faults, foibles and lack of esteem. Often, those things that trigger our feelings are most often about them, not us and our pension to let them take our feelings to the monkey’s home are our personal feelings about ourselves involving our faults, our foibles and our lowered self-esteems issues.

If we cannot control our own emotions and emotional reactions then we will find our ability to avoid conflict and violence stunted or completely gone. It comes down to a personal awareness of our faults, foibles and personal valuation of self-esteem. If we have a chip on our shoulders that we will project on anyone who makes a statement, comment or say a word that pushes those buttons then in all likelihood we are going to go monkey shit on that person. That person will first wonder, “What the …,” then in that same vane trigger their own feelings then make assumptions and speculate about how the other guy stepped across the line and the fight is on. 


We humans, as far as I can see, tend to project outward in lieu of looking with a magnifying glass inward, this seems to me the crux of self-defense. Granted there are other area’s that are outside this realm of the monkey dance but those are, as I understand it from professionals, seldom experienced by the average person, lucky us. 

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