Please take a look at Articles on self-defense/conflict/violence for introductions to the references found in the bibliography page.

Please take a look at my bibliography if you do not see a proper reference to a post.

Please take a look at my Notable Quotes

Hey, Attention on Deck!

Hey, NOTHING here is PERSONAL, get over it - Teach Me and I will Learn!

When you begin to feel like you are a tough guy, a warrior, a master of the martial arts or that you have lived a tough life, just take a moment and get some perspective with the following:

I've stopped knives that were coming to disembowel me

I've clawed for my gun while bullets ripped past me

I've dodged as someone tried to put an ax in my skull

I've fought screaming steel and left rubber on the road to avoid death

I've clawed broken glass out of my body after their opening attack failed

I've spit blood and body parts and broke strangle holds before gouging eyes

I've charged into fires, fought through blizzards and run from tornados

I've survived being hunted by gangs, killers and contract killers

The streets were my home, I hunted in the night and was hunted in turn

Please don't brag to me that you're a survivor because someone hit you. And don't tell me how 'tough' you are because of your training. As much as I've been through I know people who have survived much, much worse. - Marc MacYoung


The postings on this blog are my interpretation of readings, studies and experiences therefore errors and omissions are mine and mine alone. The content surrounding the extracts of books, see bibliography on this blog site, are also mine and mine alone therefore errors and omissions are also mine and mine alone and therefore why I highly recommended one read, study, research and fact find the material for clarity. My effort here is self-clarity toward a fuller understanding of the subject matter. See the bibliography for information on the books. Please make note that this article/post is my personal analysis of the subject and the information used was chosen or picked by me. It is not an analysis piece because it lacks complete and comprehensive research, it was not adequately and completely investigated and it is not balanced, i.e., it is my personal view without the views of others including subject experts, etc. Look at this as “Infotainment rather then expert research.” This is an opinion/editorial article/post meant to persuade the reader to think, decide and accept or reject my premise. It is an attempt to cause change or reinforce attitudes, beliefs and values as they apply to martial arts and/or self-defense. It is merely a commentary on the subject in the particular article presented.

Note: I will endevor to provide a bibliography and italicize any direct quotes from the materials I use for this blog. If there are mistakes, errors, and/or omissions, I take full responsibility for them as they are mine and mine alone. If you find any mistakes, errors, and/or omissions please comment and let me know along with the correct information and/or sources.

“What you are reading right now is a blog. It’s written and posted by me, because I want to. I get no financial remuneration for writing it. I don’t have to meet anyone’s criteria in order to post it. Not only I don’t have an employer or publisher, but I’m not even constrained by having to please an audience. If people won’t like it, they won’t read it, but I won’t lose anything by it. Provided I don’t break any laws (libel, incitement to violence, etc.), I can post whatever I want. This means that I can write openly and honestly, however controversial my opinions may be. It also means that I could write total bullshit; there is no quality control. I could be biased. I could be insane. I could be trolling. … not all sources are equivalent, and all sources have their pros and cons. These needs to be taken into account when evaluating information, and all information should be evaluated. - God’s Bastard, Sourcing Sources (this applies to this and other blogs by me as well; if you follow the idea's, advice or information you are on your own, don't come crying to me, it is all on you do do the work to make sure it works for you!)

“You should prepare yourself to dedicate at least five or six years to your training and practice to understand the philosophy and physiokinetics of martial arts and karate so that you can understand the true spirit of everything and dedicate your mind, body and spirit to the discipline of the art.” - cejames (note: you are on your own, make sure you get expert hands-on guidance in all things martial and self-defense)

“All I say is by way of discourse, and nothing by way of advice. I should not speak so boldly if it were my due to be believed.” - Montaigne

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Tingling, the Hairs on the Back of Your Neck

Do we listen when the tingling sensation triggers? Why don't we listen? Even if we listened, why don't we act appropriately when the tingling is triggered? 

First, most people don't listen. They tend to scoff at it and assume it means nothing. Second, we don't listen because we don't have the knowledge that would possibly tell us that we need to find safety and security when the tingling begins. We are subjected to so much false perceptions as to life, conflict and violence that we don't want to believe that it all could happen to us. We have become comfortable in our tiny universes called our lives. In reality, thanks to human nature in most cases, we seldom encounter the type of conflict and violence that would result in damage, etc. BUT things do happen in life that are unpredictable and sometimes dangerous. 

If we listened and had the appropriate knowledge, bare minimum, that would identify and then cause us to act, i.e. avoidance by leaving to find safety and security, etc. then maybe violence and conflict would be minimal in our lives. Part of this is deviating from the comfort of every day life if for no other reason than avoiding or at least reducing complacency. Complacency is one factor, in my opinion, that leads to being a victim and a victim is a target. 

This is terse and simplistic, only good to peak your curiosity toward finding out more. In my view waiting until something happens resulting in a need for defense or seeking self-defense lessons is a bit late. Consider this, if you were a victim and now you feel you need to learn something, is it possible that if you took the time to learn or gain the knowledge on these subjects that maybe, just maybe, you wouldn't have a reason to seek it out after the fact?

We see on television news, read in newspapers and on eNewspapers as well as on video's conflicts and violence against people simply because it is perceived as drama so makes for good standings and that means money. The fact that it seems like watching movie's or playing video games we say, "it can't happen to me" and ignore the facts of life. Not a good thing.

We all encounter conflict daily. Do we acknowledge it as such and then take appropriate steps to stop it? Not often. Take me for an example. I came to realize that most of my professional life has been based on conflict. I was an asshole. I was a bully. This may seem impossible but I didn't realize just how bad I was at communicating that I used tactics I learned as a kid to get what I wanted and to get the things I wanted done, done. I was an asshole and I am trying to lose that label even today. 

It came to me from my studies of self-defense, conflict and violence. The one that gave me the most insight came from the bibliography of Rory Miller's writings, i.e. the gentle art of verbal self-defense - all of the series. I learned just how bad I was from the examples and stared to notice a trend within the way I was socializing, both social and professional, with others. I was an asshole. 

If I had not taken the time to seek out such knowledge I would still be an asshole. Maybe I am still an asshole but at least not for the reasons I discovered over the last few years. I can tell you that this would also be a bad thing if not discovered in any type of deescalation scenario. I can definitely say it has made a difference in how I communicate with my family - improving every day. Get this, I am an introvert as well so go figure. 

I would not have discovered this if not for my seeking of knowledge in the violence/conflict arena, i.e. martial arts, military service, and the desire to understand self-defense - the entire spectrum of self-defense. I even find it has improved my working professional efforts. 

So, even if you think you don't need self-defense knowledge, training and experience you may find that the knowledge within this field or discipline also applies to most every thing you do in life. Don't wait till you need this stuff to find out what it is, accept it as reality and then learn from it.

An asshole trying not to be such an asshole. Funny, I am also turning sixty this year. Took me a long time to realize things. Better late than never. 

1 comment:

Patrick Parker said...

Ooh! I am a recovering asshole too! We should start a support group :-)