I can make one quote, a short sentence, and every single human being will come away with some different perception as to what that quote means all according to the time in which the quote was written and the time in which it was read then the individual is governed by the time in which they live; the culture and cultural beliefs in which they were raised and live; any power relations involved; their perceptions; their sensory input modes; their perceptions of perceptions as to truth and accuracy; both their internal and external environments; their perceptions of movement; their perceptions of body language including facial expressions, voice tone and word intonations, etc.
Therefore it has been proven in research that communications is not just a one statement evolution but an ongoing exchange of information until both parties fully and completely understand.
There is not possible way that one can achieve full and complete understanding of any comment either spoken or written without an exchange that will go on for as long a period needed to achieve mutual understanding.
What must transpire during the communications process is a mode of "listening" and "talking" that is not aggressive or of a nature that will promote emotional interferences which hinder the thinking and rational parts of our brains - emotions equal conflict in most cases and must be avoided to achieve good listening and communications.
Listening or reading especially must be taken with a grain. Often it is best to respond to written statements with questions to ascertain meaning or it turns into a possible flame war - not conducive to mutual understanding and positive communications.
Listening is the hardest part of all when in a verbal exchange and even more difficult when in a written form such as blogs, forums and websites with emphasis on the flow of communications in the social media, i.e. facebook, twitter, etc.
I would express my regrets if I inadvertently forget to ask questions in lieu of just commenting my perceptions, idea's and beliefs. It is unintentional but the goal is good, solid and complete communications regardless of the medium.
Thanks for Listening (or in this case reading). If you come away with feelings that are triggering a emotional response due to a perception that it is about you, STOP, break this down, ask some questions of a positive nature and I will do my best to communicate a response or series of responses to get my meaning understood.
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