Please take a look at Articles on self-defense/conflict/violence for introductions to the references found in the bibliography page.

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Hey, NOTHING here is PERSONAL, get over it - Teach Me and I will Learn!

When you begin to feel like you are a tough guy, a warrior, a master of the martial arts or that you have lived a tough life, just take a moment and get some perspective with the following:

I've stopped knives that were coming to disembowel me

I've clawed for my gun while bullets ripped past me

I've dodged as someone tried to put an ax in my skull

I've fought screaming steel and left rubber on the road to avoid death

I've clawed broken glass out of my body after their opening attack failed

I've spit blood and body parts and broke strangle holds before gouging eyes

I've charged into fires, fought through blizzards and run from tornados

I've survived being hunted by gangs, killers and contract killers

The streets were my home, I hunted in the night and was hunted in turn

Please don't brag to me that you're a survivor because someone hit you. And don't tell me how 'tough' you are because of your training. As much as I've been through I know people who have survived much, much worse. - Marc MacYoung


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Walk with Confidence, not Bravado

The line between confidence and bravado is small and in constant motion simply due to human conditions where the line can move and be crossed at any time. When I speak of this, I speak of the body language you project that is part and parcel to the art of avoidance and the art of deescalation. Your words can be anything but body language along with tone or intonation speak volumes above mere words.

As you walk around in various environments you project things. The things projected talk to others. The conversation is often unnoticed by the person doing the body language projection unless they are in a state of awareness. You walk with confidence and your body projects awareness. You are perceived in this manner which is projecting other than "victim."

Your awareness triggers the spidey sense we all have that is instinctive from human nature. It triggers when you see, hear or feel perceived danger and due to your training, practice and awareness you deviate your path to avoid.

If you have your phone or iPad out, plugged into your ears and are surfing the web while listening to the music you are NOT aware of your environment or the situations you walk into as you ditty bop along singing along while reading web content.

Do you train for this, do you train your body to project confidence?

Then there are those whose ego, pride and ability instill a sense of power that turns a walk of confidence into a walk of bravado. This type of bravado sends signals that could result in confrontation. Other ego's might take this as a challenge to their ego, pride or social status. How dare you enter our domain, how dare you tell us (by body language, etc.) your superior to us, and how dare you challenge us in our home ground ..... you find yourself circled by a bunch of rough characters hell bent on teaching you a lesson, why go there in the first place?

Bravado (Karaibari [空威張り]), your bold manner with intent to do only two things - to impress and to intimidate. Not a good path to follow for avoidance and deescalation, etc. don't you think?

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