What we do and say are often perceived by others in a way that is driven by many perceptions, i.e. the time and place; the cultures and beliefs of the observers; the environment in which the group or person lives, etc. We have little control over that end of the spectrum.
The other end of the spectrum is ours and ours alone. Many factors project things in accordance to our perceptions, beliefs and culture that are then analyzed and perceived as stated above.
How we want others to perceive us is a limited ability and therefore important to consider especially in a martial arts self-defense model. Our bodies as to body language projects many things. It can project "victim" or it can project "self-disciplined and self-confidence" or it can project "don't mess with me I am dangerous" or it can project "violent person is challenging others to dare and try me."
Look to the military bearing that would project capable, disciplined and confident. Add in the appropriate training and practice and you have a formidable person who exudes an aura that is not often challenged. Marines project an aura that speaks to the perceptions of the adversaries as "devil dogs, jar-heads, formidable.
Consider not what you can do but what you project and work that to reduce the chances someone would see you as a target or a victim. Learn how to project body language then learn how to project that body language with what you say and how you say it - it ties together, yin-yang thing.
I have observed and read how some folks communicate that sometimes says "ego and pride." Ego I have some concerns but pride is a means by which folks end up in altercations, conflicts or fights.
As martial artists what we might project can be perceived as defensive or offense, aggressive or protective and possible violent or non-violent in nature. Do we train others in the training hall about such things. If you teach the art of avoidance and deescalation then it is there or should be. I call it martial lessons in people skills.
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