When you begin to feel like you are a tough guy, a warrior, a master of the martial arts or that you have lived a tough life, just take a moment and get some perspective with the following:
I've stopped knives that were coming to disembowel me
I've clawed for my gun while bullets ripped past me
I've dodged as someone tried to put an ax in my skull
I've fought screaming steel and left rubber on the road to avoid death
I've clawed broken glass out of my body after their opening attack failed
I've spit blood and body parts and broke strangle holds before gouging eyes
I've charged into fires, fought through blizzards and run from tornados
I've survived being hunted by gangs, killers and contract killers
The streets were my home, I hunted in the night and was hunted in turn
Please don't brag to me that you're a survivor because someone hit you. And don't tell me how 'tough' you are because of your training. As much as I've been through I know people who have survived much, much worse. - Marc MacYoung
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“You should prepare yourself to dedicate at least five or six years to your training and practice to understand the philosophy and physiokinetics of martial arts and karate so that you can understand the true spirit of everything and dedicate your mind, body and spirit to the discipline of the art.” - cejames
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Two Aspects of Conflict
The components of the emotional aspect of conflict, "anger, distrust, defensiveness, scorn, resentment, fear, and rejection" while the substantive aspects are, "conflicting needs, disagreement over policies and practices, and differing perceptions/conceptions of roles and use of resources."
If you encounter a hostile situation you must deal with the emotional aspects of conflict first. When your feelings run high or get lost in the monkey dance your abilities to resolve things rationally are stunted or lost completely as the hostility/conflict levels escalate.
When emotions are allowed to run rampant, i.e. the monkey is driving the bus, then those adrenaline chemical releases are taking over your mind and body thus leading you by the nose down that hostile and dangerous path that is fighting, doing damage and receiving damage.
Train yourself to recognize when emotions are triggered, take a deep breath and tell yourself that the emotions are to be stuffed back into the hindbrain cage you use to hold the monkey in abeyance while your logical and emotionally controlling brain works to deescalate the conflict and hostile encounter while it is still controllable. No, it is not that simple. It is just a way to get the mind to think in the moment, push the emotions back into the background and achieve a more hostile/conflict freeing state of mind. Study the true complexities of the emotions and hostile/conflict processes then achieve recognition and control - as much as is humanly possible.
Of course, as you might suspect I would state, avoidance is preferred long before emotions and substantive aspects trigger hostility and conflict, right?