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When you begin to feel like you are a tough guy, a warrior, a master of the martial arts or that you have lived a tough life, just take a moment and get some perspective with the following:


I've stopped knives that were coming to disembowel me

I've clawed for my gun while bullets ripped past me

I've dodged as someone tried to put an ax in my skull

I've fought screaming steel and left rubber on the road to avoid death

I've clawed broken glass out of my body after their opening attack failed

I've spit blood and body parts and broke strangle holds before gouging eyes

I've charged into fires, fought through blizzards and run from tornados

I've survived being hunted by gangs, killers and contract killers

The streets were my home, I hunted in the night and was hunted in turn


Please don't brag to me that you're a survivor because someone hit you. And don't tell me how 'tough' you are because of your training. As much as I've been through I know people who have survived much, much worse. - Marc MacYoung

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Overcoming Politeness

Did you see "The Girl with the Dragon Tatoo?" Did you read the book? Did you see the American version? Why is this a martial system blog post? All good questions.


First, I watched both movies and read all three books but it was the ending section of the American version movie that prompted me to write this post, on the human instinct to allow politeness override our spidey sense, or instincts and those survival actions that should, could and do often times provide us protection and avoidance of damage.

What the heck am I talking about. As the ending sees the lead strung up in a room beneath the antagonists home ready to be killed the killer tells the victim that it was his inability to say "no" that got him in his predicament. I believe this is true. I also believe when coupled with the mind set that "it can't happen to me or he/she won't really hurt me" puts us into harm's way.

So, how do we train to overcome our tendency toward "politeness?" My wife and I often encounter those folks who team up facing opposite directions creating a space between were either can interrupt any person from either direction with statements that are geared to trigger your "polite" instincts in the hopes you will stop, listen and sign/buy, etc. what ever it is they are trying to hawk to you. She starts to respond politely and engage while I will look briefly, nod no, turn my eyes immediately to the front (my peripheral is still on them) and continue on ignoring all they say.

There may be other ways because this particular example also is used by predators. Two guys looking for a victim, one at one end of a space and one at the other. When you pass the one behind starts to follow. The one in front may step out and ask for a light or a smoke, etc. Your now scissored between two who may mean you not good. What can happen here?

Think about this, sometimes you need to ignore politeness and let your instincts for survival along with your training to take over thus "avoiding." What say ye?

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