When you begin to feel like you are a tough guy, a warrior, a master of the martial arts or that you have lived a tough life, just take a moment and get some perspective with the following:
I've stopped knives that were coming to disembowel me
I've clawed for my gun while bullets ripped past me
I've dodged as someone tried to put an ax in my skull
I've fought screaming steel and left rubber on the road to avoid death
I've clawed broken glass out of my body after their opening attack failed
I've spit blood and body parts and broke strangle holds before gouging eyes
I've charged into fires, fought through blizzards and run from tornados
I've survived being hunted by gangs, killers and contract killers
The streets were my home, I hunted in the night and was hunted in turn
Please don't brag to me that you're a survivor because someone hit you. And don't tell me how 'tough' you are because of your training. As much as I've been through I know people who have survived much, much worse. - Marc MacYoung
WARNING, CAVEAT AND NOTE
The postings on this blog are my interpretation of readings, studies and experiences therefore errors and omissions are mine and mine alone. The content surrounding the extracts of books, see bibliography on this blog site, are also mine and mine alone therefore errors and omissions are also mine and mine alone and therefore why I highly recommended one read, study, research and fact find the material for clarity. My effort here is self-clarity toward a fuller understanding of the subject matter. See the bibliography for information on the books. Please make note that this article/post is my personal analysis of the subject and the information used was chosen or picked by me. It is not an analysis piece because it lacks complete and comprehensive research, it was not adequately and completely investigated and it is not balanced, i.e., it is my personal view without the views of others including subject experts, etc. Look at this as “Infotainment rather then expert research.” This is an opinion/editorial article/post meant to persuade the reader to think, decide and accept or reject my premise. It is an attempt to cause change or reinforce attitudes, beliefs and values as they apply to martial arts and/or self-defense. It is merely a commentary on the subject in the particular article presented.
Note: I will endevor to provide a bibliography and italicize any direct quotes from the materials I use for this blog. If there are mistakes, errors, and/or omissions, I take full responsibility for them as they are mine and mine alone. If you find any mistakes, errors, and/or omissions please comment and let me know along with the correct information and/or sources.
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“You should prepare yourself to dedicate at least five or six years to your training and practice to understand the philosophy and physiokinetics of martial arts and karate so that you can understand the true spirit of everything and dedicate your mind, body and spirit to the discipline of the art.” - cejames (note: you are on your own, make sure you get expert hands-on guidance in all things martial and self-defense)
“All I say is by way of discourse, and nothing by way of advice. I should not speak so boldly if it were my due to be believed.” - Montaigne
Your Greatest Opponent
Often people in trouble look outside themselves to find answers. The only answers you should seek are those you have in yourself. You might feel that some person has some special skill and can provide you the lessons but in reality those who do this are actually "listening attentively" and "reflecting" to get you to find the answers within yourself.
Why you have to find your own solutions:
1. You have all the data. No matter how effective the other person is at listening they can never have all the information you do.
2. You are taking all the risks. If the other persons solution isn't good you will suffer the consequences.
3. You must implement the solution. You know that your acceptance to take an action is more likely to be successful if you are the one who made the decision, right?
4. It is your confidence and sense of self-responsibility that is strengthened when you make and implement your own solution. It is a step toward shaping your own destiny.
5. Both you and a listener become less dependent on the other as a listener or helper.
Of course it can be much more convenient for you if you just allow others to lead you around so that you can give yourself the excuse it is there fault you fail. If you do fail it is no one's fault but your own. Take control of your life, find your own destiny. You have all the answers and the only purpose for the other person as a listener is to be a sounding board that reflects you so you can find your answers yourself while developing a friendship with a listener. You win, the listener if needed wins and both become close and successful.
Ever wonder why Sensei in Okinawa might not provide more than the simplest of of comments? They want you to discover for yourself what you can do and what you can define and what you can apply in martial arts.