Please take a look at Articles on self-defense/conflict/violence for introductions to the references found in the bibliography page.

Please take a look at my bibliography if you do not see a proper reference to a post.

Please take a look at my Notable Quotes

Hey, Attention on Deck!

Hey, NOTHING here is PERSONAL, get over it - Teach Me and I will Learn!

When you begin to feel like you are a tough guy, a warrior, a master of the martial arts or that you have lived a tough life, just take a moment and get some perspective with the following:

I've stopped knives that were coming to disembowel me

I've clawed for my gun while bullets ripped past me

I've dodged as someone tried to put an ax in my skull

I've fought screaming steel and left rubber on the road to avoid death

I've clawed broken glass out of my body after their opening attack failed

I've spit blood and body parts and broke strangle holds before gouging eyes

I've charged into fires, fought through blizzards and run from tornados

I've survived being hunted by gangs, killers and contract killers

The streets were my home, I hunted in the night and was hunted in turn

Please don't brag to me that you're a survivor because someone hit you. And don't tell me how 'tough' you are because of your training. As much as I've been through I know people who have survived much, much worse. - Marc MacYoung


The postings on this blog are my interpretation of readings, studies and experiences therefore errors and omissions are mine and mine alone. The content surrounding the extracts of books, see bibliography on this blog site, are also mine and mine alone therefore errors and omissions are also mine and mine alone and therefore why I highly recommended one read, study, research and fact find the material for clarity. My effort here is self-clarity toward a fuller understanding of the subject matter. See the bibliography for information on the books. Please make note that this article/post is my personal analysis of the subject and the information used was chosen or picked by me. It is not an analysis piece because it lacks complete and comprehensive research, it was not adequately and completely investigated and it is not balanced, i.e., it is my personal view without the views of others including subject experts, etc. Look at this as “Infotainment rather then expert research.” This is an opinion/editorial article/post meant to persuade the reader to think, decide and accept or reject my premise. It is an attempt to cause change or reinforce attitudes, beliefs and values as they apply to martial arts and/or self-defense. It is merely a commentary on the subject in the particular article presented.

Note: I will endevor to provide a bibliography and italicize any direct quotes from the materials I use for this blog. If there are mistakes, errors, and/or omissions, I take full responsibility for them as they are mine and mine alone. If you find any mistakes, errors, and/or omissions please comment and let me know along with the correct information and/or sources.

“What you are reading right now is a blog. It’s written and posted by me, because I want to. I get no financial remuneration for writing it. I don’t have to meet anyone’s criteria in order to post it. Not only I don’t have an employer or publisher, but I’m not even constrained by having to please an audience. If people won’t like it, they won’t read it, but I won’t lose anything by it. Provided I don’t break any laws (libel, incitement to violence, etc.), I can post whatever I want. This means that I can write openly and honestly, however controversial my opinions may be. It also means that I could write total bullshit; there is no quality control. I could be biased. I could be insane. I could be trolling. … not all sources are equivalent, and all sources have their pros and cons. These needs to be taken into account when evaluating information, and all information should be evaluated. - God’s Bastard, Sourcing Sources (this applies to this and other blogs by me as well; if you follow the idea's, advice or information you are on your own, don't come crying to me, it is all on you do do the work to make sure it works for you!)

“You should prepare yourself to dedicate at least five or six years to your training and practice to understand the philosophy and physiokinetics of martial arts and karate so that you can understand the true spirit of everything and dedicate your mind, body and spirit to the discipline of the art.” - cejames (note: you are on your own, make sure you get expert hands-on guidance in all things martial and self-defense)

“All I say is by way of discourse, and nothing by way of advice. I should not speak so boldly if it were my due to be believed.” - Montaigne

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Respect, where does it come from? Who has the ability to give or remove respect? From time to time I ask such questions of myself to make sure I am not allowing my self-respect to diminish under any circumstances other than through my own beliefs, morals, and actions. I also ask, what is respect?

What is respect? It is that feeling one develops and feels that provides spirit of the mind, body and soul. I believe it is an internal feeling I create as I grew/grow up. It is a cumulative of qualities, abilities and achievements that provide me the self-esteem level that promotes a healthy self-respect.

It promotes in others a modicum of feelings, wishes, rights, or traditions that say "I respect this person." Others feel a form of admiration for their abilities, qualities and achievements. Others have regard for the person.

Who can give or take away respect? Only that individual. No other person can give it or remove it no matter what. Giving a person due regard, respect, and admiration does not give respect and a lack of a person giving these same things cannot remove that respect. Only you, the person, can give or remove respect.

It all begins with your self-respect. You have to earn it from within. Your actions, your deeds, your beliefs, your morals and all those other positive traits can only be learned and lived by you. They are yours and unique to you. You cannot transfer them onto others for others have their own system created through their unique perspective filtering systems.

If you say or do something that causes me to tell myself, "Hey, he dissed me and showed me no respect," then what I have done is allowed my own self-respect to be diminished by my expectations of others. Much like our desires, we have no influence on the expectations of others. We therefor shall not allow the expectations of others to influence our self-respect. The moment I make such a statement is the moment I have allowed myself, the monkey brain, to lose self-respect and the monkey therefor drives me to such thoughts and resulting actions.

Respect comes from within each of us. We control it all and develop it all ourselves. We may receive mentoring from others who may have achieved such levels of self-respect we see it as a trait we wish to emulate and therefore meld it into ourselves and all without direct influence to our self-respect. If it does not fit, ignore and discard it.

Respect! My efforts in karate gave me confidence, ability, and respect. Not true, I did it all myself and used karate and other studies as a study guide to  see, hear and feel what I want and need for self-respect, self-esteem, and self-confidence.

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