When you begin to feel like you are a tough guy, a warrior, a master of the martial arts or that you have lived a tough life, just take a moment and get some perspective with the following:
I've stopped knives that were coming to disembowel me
I've clawed for my gun while bullets ripped past me
I've dodged as someone tried to put an ax in my skull
I've fought screaming steel and left rubber on the road to avoid death
I've clawed broken glass out of my body after their opening attack failed
I've spit blood and body parts and broke strangle holds before gouging eyes
I've charged into fires, fought through blizzards and run from tornados
I've survived being hunted by gangs, killers and contract killers
The streets were my home, I hunted in the night and was hunted in turn
Please don't brag to me that you're a survivor because someone hit you. And don't tell me how 'tough' you are because of your training. As much as I've been through I know people who have survived much, much worse. - Marc MacYoung
WARNING, CAVEAT AND NOTE
The postings on this blog are my interpretation of readings, studies and experiences therefore errors and omissions are mine and mine alone. The content surrounding the extracts of books, see bibliography on this blog site, are also mine and mine alone therefore errors and omissions are also mine and mine alone and therefore why I highly recommended one read, study, research and fact find the material for clarity. My effort here is self-clarity toward a fuller understanding of the subject matter. See the bibliography for information on the books. Please make note that this article/post is my personal analysis of the subject and the information used was chosen or picked by me. It is not an analysis piece because it lacks complete and comprehensive research, it was not adequately and completely investigated and it is not balanced, i.e., it is my personal view without the views of others including subject experts, etc. Look at this as “Infotainment rather then expert research.” This is an opinion/editorial article/post meant to persuade the reader to think, decide and accept or reject my premise. It is an attempt to cause change or reinforce attitudes, beliefs and values as they apply to martial arts and/or self-defense. It is merely a commentary on the subject in the particular article presented.
Note: I will endevor to provide a bibliography and italicize any direct quotes from the materials I use for this blog. If there are mistakes, errors, and/or omissions, I take full responsibility for them as they are mine and mine alone. If you find any mistakes, errors, and/or omissions please comment and let me know along with the correct information and/or sources.
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“You should prepare yourself to dedicate at least five or six years to your training and practice to understand the philosophy and physiokinetics of martial arts and karate so that you can understand the true spirit of everything and dedicate your mind, body and spirit to the discipline of the art.” - cejames (note: you are on your own, make sure you get expert hands-on guidance in all things martial and self-defense)
“All I say is by way of discourse, and nothing by way of advice. I should not speak so boldly if it were my due to be believed.” - Montaigne
Metaphors - Importance
It takes only a small piece of a metaphor to evoke the whole. - Suzette Haden Elgin, Ph.D. "How Metaphors Filter Perception and Complicate Communications." pages 146 - 154.
I find it of interest that language for humans has some need for a metaphor to bring about changes in our knowledge, understanding, and perceptions. I can only guess that this is so simply because the human minds pension to resist change and misunderstand normal language. There are so many variables to language and communications that even in the best of situations we are mistaken in what we hear, see, and perceive.
I can also make the guess that we all come into any language interaction with preconceived thoughts and understandings as related to our personal perceptual filtering system. When it gets dicey is when we use them to "assume" we know what others are thinking, meaning, and conveying in conversation.
If we use metaphors then don't we have to know and understand what others will perceive to understand as to the metaphor as it relates to the intended meaning. It is possible our metaphor may not be perceived by the other person as the same or related to our intent.
In general, use of metaphors will provide others an easier and gentler path to change. One that they may accept more readily than blunt information, i.e. your wrong and I am right. This latter example would stimulate resistance, not acceptance.
Why discuss this in a martial arts blog? Well, if your trying to achieve a level of defense where a primary and important aspect is avoidance and/or deescalation then this would assist in achieving those goals.
Last comment here, do you know what the unifying metaphor is for the group you are a member of or the individual you are trying to lead to change? If not, maybe in lieu of simply stating they need to change do some discovery to find that unifying metaphor that will provide them an opening to change and keep their "face" intact. A simply complex endeavor don't you think?