When you begin to feel like you are a tough guy, a warrior, a master of the martial arts or that you have lived a tough life, just take a moment and get some perspective with the following:
I've stopped knives that were coming to disembowel me
I've clawed for my gun while bullets ripped past me
I've dodged as someone tried to put an ax in my skull
I've fought screaming steel and left rubber on the road to avoid death
I've clawed broken glass out of my body after their opening attack failed
I've spit blood and body parts and broke strangle holds before gouging eyes
I've charged into fires, fought through blizzards and run from tornados
I've survived being hunted by gangs, killers and contract killers
The streets were my home, I hunted in the night and was hunted in turn
Please don't brag to me that you're a survivor because someone hit you. And don't tell me how 'tough' you are because of your training. As much as I've been through I know people who have survived much, much worse. - Marc MacYoung
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The postings on this blog are my interpretation of readings, studies and experiences therefore errors and omissions are mine and mine alone. The content surrounding the extracts of books, see bibliography on this blog site, are also mine and mine alone therefore errors and omissions are also mine and mine alone and therefore why I highly recommended one read, study, research and fact find the material for clarity. My effort here is self-clarity toward a fuller understanding of the subject matter. See the bibliography for information on the books. Please make note that this article/post is my personal analysis of the subject and the information used was chosen or picked by me. It is not an analysis piece because it lacks complete and comprehensive research, it was not adequately and completely investigated and it is not balanced, i.e., it is my personal view without the views of others including subject experts, etc. Look at this as “Infotainment rather then expert research.” This is an opinion/editorial article/post meant to persuade the reader to think, decide and accept or reject my premise. It is an attempt to cause change or reinforce attitudes, beliefs and values as they apply to martial arts and/or self-defense. It is merely a commentary on the subject in the particular article presented.
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“All I say is by way of discourse, and nothing by way of advice. I should not speak so boldly if it were my due to be believed.” - Montaigne
Basics of VSD
Much like upper and lower waza there are two main basic fundamentals you will learn from her, Dr. Elgin, instruction. The upper waza are detection of the sensory mode. The lower waza are detection of the satir mode.
I will refrain from getting the details here. I do not have the expertise and level of proficiency to accomplish this with accurate certainty. There are fundamentals to each that provide you the tools to practice.
Quickly, to identify the sensory mode you would identify the one you feel is your primary mode. Do not take for granted you know. Identify it and spend the next few weeks paying attention to what you say especially when your stress levels go up a bit. You may surprise yourself to feel rather than see which is your primary.
I initially identified mine as touch. As time moves I am starting to realize that mine may be seeing. One point that says this to me is a lot of my posts for the ken-po goku-i seem to point to seeing. I even hear what someone reads to me and then have a strong desire to read it myself. I find that I am not fully understanding what is read unless I read it for myself. Hmmm. interesting. I anxiously await to see what I discover these next few days to weeks.
I recommend taking the studies from Dr. Elgin's books and then break them down into sections or phases to learn the systems. A bit like fundamental principles, stances or kamae, basic waza, kata, etc. until you can achieve daily use of this system of communications.
One point of importance. Although called verbal self-defense, this system works both ways. It is a defensive method and it is an offensive method. You can protect as well as enhance by the verbal techniques used. Read the books then read them again with martial arts self defense in mind. You will see the connections and applications. (oh, even if you don't see to MA; the value in general is astounding)
The series of books as follows:
Elgin, Suzette. "The Gentle Art of Self-Defense at Work." New York. Prentice Hall Press. 2000.
Elgin, Suzette. "The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense" Barnes & Noble. 1993.
Elgin, Suzette. "More on The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense" Fireside. 1991.
Elgin, Suzette. "The Gentle Art of Written Self-Defense" MJF Books. 1997
Elgin, Suzette. "The Last Word on the Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense" Barnes & Noble. 1995
Oh, yea. Dr. Elgin uses a martial art metaphor in the book(s) ;-)
Examples of Sensory Words from Internet:
Use the following to get the basics of sensory mode identification started for your practice and training. It is to be remembered that this type of practice and training can be done every day at home, work, and play. Try it, see what happens when you identify a sensory mode and then match it during your conversation [caution: be careful, being a novice means you may not match it initially and that could cause stress]
Colors: colorless, white, ivory, yellow, gold, orange, green, olive, turquoise, azure, pink, crimson, maroon, lavender, purple, silver, brown, black, mottled, red, ruby, blue, spotted
Shape: round, oval, triangular, rectangular, square, shapeless
Size: immense, massive, large, tiny, small, tall, short, wide, long, narrow, lean
Appearance : round, flat, curved, wave/wavy, ruffled, angular, hollow, tapered, wiry, lopsided, freckled, wrinkled, striped, bright, clear, glossy, jeweled, fiery, shimmering, muddy, drab, dark, grimy, worn, cluttered, fresh, flowery, transparent, sheer, opaque, muscular, handsome, robust, fragile, pale, perky, lacy, shadowy
crash, squawk, crackle, chime, ring, thud, whine, buzz, laugh, silence, bump, bark, clink, gurgle, chuckle, boom, bleat, hiss, giggle, cry, thunder, bray, snort, guffaw, bawled, bang, blare, bellow, sing, crow, roar, rumble, growl, hum, chatter, scream, grate, whimper, mutter, mumble, screech, slam, stammer, murmur, wail, shout, clap, snap, whisper, babble, yell, stomp, rustle, sigh, cheer, whistle, jangle, whir, hush, storm
oily, rich, bland, ripe, buttery, hearty, tasteless, medicinal, salty, mellow, sour, fishy, bitter, sugary, vinegary, spicy, bittersweet, crisp, fruity, hot, sweet, savory, tangy, burnt
sweet, piney, acrid, sickly, scented, pungent, burnt, stagnant, fragrant, spicy, gaseous, musty, aromatic, gamy, putrid, moldy, perfumed, fishy, spoiled, dry, fresh, briny, sour, damp, earthy, sharp, rancid, dank
Touch (feeling) Words
cool, wet, silky, sandy, cold, slippery, velvety, gritty, icy, spongy, smooth, rough, lukewarm, mushy, soft, sharp, tepid, oily, woolly, thick, warm, waxy, furry, dry, hot, fleshy, feathery, dull, steamy, rubbery, fuzzy, thin, sticky, bumpy, hairy, fragile, damp, crisp, leathery, tender