When you begin to feel like you are a tough guy, a warrior, a master of the martial arts or that you have lived a tough life, just take a moment and get some perspective with the following:
I've stopped knives that were coming to disembowel me
I've clawed for my gun while bullets ripped past me
I've dodged as someone tried to put an ax in my skull
I've fought screaming steel and left rubber on the road to avoid death
I've clawed broken glass out of my body after their opening attack failed
I've spit blood and body parts and broke strangle holds before gouging eyes
I've charged into fires, fought through blizzards and run from tornados
I've survived being hunted by gangs, killers and contract killers
The streets were my home, I hunted in the night and was hunted in turn
Please don't brag to me that you're a survivor because someone hit you. And don't tell me how 'tough' you are because of your training. As much as I've been through I know people who have survived much, much worse. - Marc MacYoung
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The postings on this blog are my interpretation of readings, studies and experiences therefore errors and omissions are mine and mine alone. The content surrounding the extracts of books, see bibliography on this blog site, are also mine and mine alone therefore errors and omissions are also mine and mine alone and therefore why I highly recommended one read, study, research and fact find the material for clarity. My effort here is self-clarity toward a fuller understanding of the subject matter. See the bibliography for information on the books. Please make note that this article/post is my personal analysis of the subject and the information used was chosen or picked by me. It is not an analysis piece because it lacks complete and comprehensive research, it was not adequately and completely investigated and it is not balanced, i.e., it is my personal view without the views of others including subject experts, etc. Look at this as “Infotainment rather then expert research.” This is an opinion/editorial article/post meant to persuade the reader to think, decide and accept or reject my premise. It is an attempt to cause change or reinforce attitudes, beliefs and values as they apply to martial arts and/or self-defense. It is merely a commentary on the subject in the particular article presented.
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“You should prepare yourself to dedicate at least five or six years to your training and practice to understand the philosophy and physiokinetics of martial arts and karate so that you can understand the true spirit of everything and dedicate your mind, body and spirit to the discipline of the art.” - cejames (note: you are on your own, make sure you get expert hands-on guidance in all things martial and self-defense)
“All I say is by way of discourse, and nothing by way of advice. I should not speak so boldly if it were my due to be believed.” - Montaigne
Lets us start with what is lost. The loss is a self perception of something that denotes you are no longer respected and thus have lost your dignity and maybe had your prestige in a group diminished. Where is the injury here, can it be photographed? Is the damage physical or psychological?
Next, lets say it for what it is, it is that something you personally perceive as important to a level you may be ready to endure physical and legal repercussions to maintain. You, the person, are claiming for yourself what you expect, expectations - a dangerous ideology, for yourself from others. It involves your perception as to your position in some social environment - group dynamics. It is a judgement that you either are or are not adequate in your views and then you may project those view onto someone else when perceiving a slight or "lose of face." Your emotionally investing much into a ideology that may or may not actually be relevant to the situation.
Finally, lets "face" it, this is nothing more than an emotional investment into some story that provides you with self security, comfort, and some status that you need validated at every turn. Only you can lose it, maintain it, and only you can provide the constant need for the interactions that attend to promoting your view of "face." It is a sense of worth that is derived from you perceived status, performance, appearance, or your real self worth. You feel that it affects your prestige, dignity, honor, respect and status.
This term which is Chinese in origin has led many into harm's way and most is because they allowed their ego and pride to dictate their lives when in reality they should conduct themselves for themselves and not allow their "expectations of others" to determine their "face." The moment you allow someone else to dictate to you what your face is then you have lost control of yourself and your life. You are the monkey and the monkey will do everything to satisfy its need and that is chaos. Don't let "losing face" determine whether you are who you are - it is about self esteem, yes?