When you begin to feel like you are a tough guy, a warrior, a master of the martial arts or that you have lived a tough life, just take a moment and get some perspective with the following:
I've stopped knives that were coming to disembowel me
I've clawed for my gun while bullets ripped past me
I've dodged as someone tried to put an ax in my skull
I've fought screaming steel and left rubber on the road to avoid death
I've clawed broken glass out of my body after their opening attack failed
I've spit blood and body parts and broke strangle holds before gouging eyes
I've charged into fires, fought through blizzards and run from tornados
I've survived being hunted by gangs, killers and contract killers
The streets were my home, I hunted in the night and was hunted in turn
Please don't brag to me that you're a survivor because someone hit you. And don't tell me how 'tough' you are because of your training. As much as I've been through I know people who have survived much, much worse. - Marc MacYoung
WARNING, CAVEAT AND NOTE
The postings on this blog are my interpretation of readings, studies and experiences therefore errors and omissions are mine and mine alone. The content surrounding the extracts of books, see bibliography on this blog site, are also mine and mine alone therefore errors and omissions are also mine and mine alone and therefore why I highly recommended one read, study, research and fact find the material for clarity. My effort here is self-clarity toward a fuller understanding of the subject matter. See the bibliography for information on the books. Please make note that this article/post is my personal analysis of the subject and the information used was chosen or picked by me. It is not an analysis piece because it lacks complete and comprehensive research, it was not adequately and completely investigated and it is not balanced, i.e., it is my personal view without the views of others including subject experts, etc. Look at this as “Infotainment rather then expert research.” This is an opinion/editorial article/post meant to persuade the reader to think, decide and accept or reject my premise. It is an attempt to cause change or reinforce attitudes, beliefs and values as they apply to martial arts and/or self-defense. It is merely a commentary on the subject in the particular article presented.
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“You should prepare yourself to dedicate at least five or six years to your training and practice to understand the philosophy and physiokinetics of martial arts and karate so that you can understand the true spirit of everything and dedicate your mind, body and spirit to the discipline of the art.” - cejames (note: you are on your own, make sure you get expert hands-on guidance in all things martial and self-defense)
“All I say is by way of discourse, and nothing by way of advice. I should not speak so boldly if it were my due to be believed.” - Montaigne
Emotion and Story Connection
Some guy cuts you off taking an off ramp, you are startled, fear of an accident emotions kicks into high speed. If you just experience the emotion of fear and allow it to die out on its own then you can feel relief and move on but most of us allow the monkey brain to kick in so stories start up like, "that asshole, he almost killed me, I could just ram his back end and then get out and stomp his ass to kingdom come ..." and it doesn't just stop there cause those words inflame your anger emotion which the statement triggered as an add on the fear, fear at its height plus the story shifts it to anger, at its height and then keeps it up and high since one story leads to another story and so on. The story drives us, the monkey brain, if we allow it, drives our emotions to remain in high gear.
Look at it like getting in your car, turn it on, then depress the accelerator, out of gear of course, until the engine revolutions reach maximum and then hold it there. Very soon that level of stress and strain will cause something to give. In humans it can be health effects or it can as to emotions lead anger to intent to posturing to actual actions that will lead you to more ... the story/monkey drives that train and it is full speed ahead until it hits a wall. What needs to occur is for you, the person in the monkey's passenger seat, to stop it before the train becomes a run-a-way train.
The story is the true culprit to all conflict. Mindfulness, recognize the emotion and the story. Don't try to kill or stop the emotion. If you do the effects are just as devastating. Simply name it, let it come, and then let it go. When you see or recognize the start of a story, stop and keep stopping BEFORE it gets its hooks in and drags you down a very bad path.
I came across a very bad situation this Sunday. I felt the anger, my body felt it, my actions began the suddenly I took a deep breathe and realized it, let the anger be experienced and then suddenly felt it was gone - all with out letting one word of any story intervene. It allowed me to regain control of self an then allow the other to run the gamut of anger and stories not contributing to it and allowing my seeming calm affect the other person. It worked and deescalated what in the past usually turns into an all day anger fest into a few minutes of discomfort.
It works, it requires practice, practice, practice, yet IT WORKS!