Addressing Asshole-ness

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I can actually hear in my mind the plethora of questions on this article's title alone but just be patient with me a moment so I can "tell you the story." 

All of us in the self-protection teachings have heard, and understand, that the key to avoidance, one of them anyway, is to avoid being an asshole. What I am proposing is to put another spin on the use of the term and here is why.

Sometimes, especially is social violence, we place that term directly on an offender in our painfully woeful attempt to stop the person from being a grade "A" asshole. For instance, you might say to Uncle Bill, "Don't be an asshole." So, I asked myself is there were a way to gain the person's attention to behaviors while not escalating the situation to greater conflict on up to violence. 

There are three ways this can be done. First is we can simply say or call them on it by calling them an asshole. Second, we can simply turn and walk away because in most cases we understand that calling them on it is a waste of time. Third, we may be able to call them on it in a way that will trigger recognition and possibly result in stopping the asshole-ness, we can say something like, "This is really stupid, it is very irritating and it is contemptible behavior, let's not do that."

I call this the SIC method because being an asshole is really, truly and always an act of stupidity, it is irritating to those who have to hear or endure it, and it is the most contemptible behavior possible one can demonstrate both in a non-social and especially in a social situation. 

SIC (stupid is as stupid does; irritation is irritating; contempt is contemptible)

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