Hokyaku [訪客] visitor; guest | Kaku [格] status; position; rank. [訪客格]
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A status often allowed when strangers enter a new group, social structure and environment whereby there is a huge latitude taken by the members being visited, at least on the first instance, knowing that the guest may not know or realize the rules. As the guest returns for additional visits then it is incumbent on that visitor/guest to use their observations skills and their ability to ask questions to learn, understand and live up to that social constructs rules, standards and behaviors or else... either your are asked to leave and never return or if they perceive your potential to add to the group they apply an EBD.
Now, this is in a small category of the invited person who is a guest and that holds sway as to how well the ones making the invitation feel as to what they will tolerate. Things get a bit dicey at the uninvited category where one may gravitate toward an environment where they were NOT invited therefore the tolerance levels drop to damn near ZERO. There are a ton of factors involved in this category and it is this one that tends to lead to the greater effect of conflict and violence.
GUESTS; 2 kinds: invited and uninvited.
One is high tolerance; the other low to none. One slowly reduces tolerance as each visit occurs and the second just dies if any tolerance excuses any level of rule breaking, etc.
INVITED GUEST: Family, immediate family, relatives extended beyond immediate family, neighbors and friends along with relationships with those who work with us, for us and us for them. I really complex area that requires a lot of focus, attention and awareness. Yet, in this one the tolerance levels are moderately high to very high depending on certain factors that relate to the invited visitor/guest dichotomy. The dangers of conflict can be both high and low with less danger of grave harm or death due to violence… mostly, then there are the times when grave harm and violence are at their highest with a possible ability to avoid and deescalate due to the relationship while that same relationship can lead to grave harm and violence of death.
Between IG and UG the UG actually has less chance of this dichotomy of unknowns because in the UG environment the tolerance levels are very low to non existent also depending on the environment and its belief systems and its realities to rules, standards and other requirements of visiting that environment.
UNINVITED GUEST: This one deals with the unknowns, the unknown unknowns and those other pesky things that trigger reactions, good and bad, when we hit the social environment especially when it involves a totally different reality from ours, remember reality is about our beliefs and how we perceive and project that into our environments. The uninvited guest must enter with caution and the reality that their belief-realties don’t play well with those of whom they are visiting. You have to be willing and able to let your own go for the good of health and longevity because in some places it can turn ugly faster than a flash of lighting and with as deadly of effects as actually being struck by it.
This should be enough now to provide one with idea’s to pursue BECAUSE how we perceive and act as guests both invited and uninvited contributes a lot toward applied violence in a variety of situations.
Always, ALWAYS be an honorable and polite guest!
Charles James
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