We do not have full control of our minds and we do not have full control of our bodies. Our bodies reveal, our bodies impact and our bodies shape our minds.
The goal of martial discipline is to gain as much control over our minds and bodies. This connectivity also addresses such factors as group dynamics. In groups, especially those with connections and like mindedness, emotions, etc. are contagious infecting each person until the entire group is feeling and experiencing that emotional experience.
Emotions, our monkey brain, are contagious and that transcends just humans and involves humans and animals. This also applies to groups or tribes, i.e., our micro acts of positivity are contagious to others in our group and that also applies to our micro acts of negativity as well.
Wonder why your animals act the way the do as pets? Well, like humans pets are influenced by the emotional feelings of their human owners. It goes to say that in the dojo the actions and emotions of others especially when it comes to body language we all speak effects us on how we act, practice and train. This is one of those things that should be a part of the process of teaching and learning martial disciplines.
Our nonverbal displays of power also effects others across the board and changes according to group membership and others, i.e., those outside the group. Taking high power displays, i.e., take up more physical space and open our body posture, effects us and other positively while low power displays, i.e., take up less physical space and close our body posture, effects us and others negatively.
“Just as powerful as words, your ordinary, everyday nonverbal behaviors reveal who you are, what you are thinking and feeling, they impact people around you, and can shape your own mind. Our bodies can be used to change minds, i.e., empower others through touch and empower self by upright open posture and nods. You are not or ever alone; micro acts of positivity ripple and emotions ripple.
Always act in positive ways, use acts of touch to cause positivity too. A simple pat on someones back empowers them and makes them feel like they are in control. Head nods are self-affirming.
Cortisol is a chemical in the body that rises when stressed - body posture for power, i.e., big and expansive causes the cortisol to go down - power poses, etc.
Overall: Without a single spoken word, a slight nod of the head can begin the hijacking of an airplane, a smile can turn an adversary into a friend, and a wink can turn a friend into a lover. With speechless efficiency, the language of nonverbal behavior communicates complex human thought and feeling.
Sometimes nonverbal messages convey intended information. Other times nonverbal behaviors can convey messages you are trying to hide. And deeper still, sometimes nonverbal messages convey information buried below the reaches of introspective access.
In this talk I will present some of the most compelling findings to emerge from the science of nonverbal communication. For example, you will learn that a tiny contempt expression on the face can predict divorce with up to 94% accuracy. You will learn that a simple pat on the back can significantly increase the likelihood that someone will take a risk.
You will learn that skin-to-skin physical touch is the newest therapy to help autistic babies learn to overcome social deficits. And I will tell you that you can nearly double your chances of landing an online date if in your profile you display just a hint of nonverbal dominance.
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