Self-Talk (BAVSD)

"I know that what causes the disorder in my life is language. Not things that happen to me ... not things other people do to me ... not faults I myself have or bad things I myself do ... but language." - Dr. Suzette Elgin, PhD. The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense

Ahhhh, enlightenment. I can say that for 98% of the disorder in my life I can attribute it to language. Not just the language we use to communicate with other humans but that language we speak to ourselves. That greatest of languages called, "Self-Talk."

I give 98% simply because I needed to give some ground to those truly violent predatory encounters that may have occurred or could possibly occur in our life, my life or your life. It is possible otherwise I can say that Dr. Elgin's view is 99.9%.

All things we have happen in our lives usually occur due to some decision we make and that decision comes from our self-talk. It can be self-talk about an event we witness, some event we encounter or some person who crosses our path as we travel the Way. This is why I firmly believe the line of defense in all situations starts with our own self-talk which influences the talk we have externally.

This makes sense. Our self talk and our communications will be what we perceive through the perceptive filters we have created. It comes down to how our attitudes develop due to how we create perceptive filtering of life events which of course results in the self-talk we use. Language, how we compose and create and connect the words with meaning and presuppositions and body language, etc.

So many connections and all of it created through our thoughts, self-talk within the mind, our conversations with ourselves, self-talk within the mind, and finally with the conversations we have with humans we encounter, self-talk translated to actual verbalization to be heard by other humans in close proximity.