I was once told or I read somewhere if you cannot take a picture of it, it ain't a defendable position if you hurt the other guy. What I am saying is that I understand and believe that if your ego or pride are hurt and you clock the guy, your attacking him and fighting so you are going to jail.
Even the monkey dance, fighting in school yards, etc., usually the fight escalates due to some prideful damaging remark or someone's ego overrunning their logic but guess what? It cannot be photographed so it ain't truly a damage or an attack that would stand up in court.
Me, I identify my emotion if possible. By identifying it and then saying, can I take a picture of it? Can it or does it result is hospital time and doctors bills? If I can say no to these and readily identify it as emotion, pride or ego then I live with it and move on cause if I clean someones clock for some non-photographic injury I are in trouble.
It is a good way to deescalate yourself first so you can deescalate the other guy. Identify when your emotions, pride and ego are involved. Get some space between it and your actions and then let it go, the emotions-pride-ego, and work on that deescalation to avoid physical altercation which can be photographed if you let it happen. The photo will be the mug shot for the prosecutor when he/she charges you BOTH.
Remember being "dissed" does not remain disfiguring and I will bet that if you are mature it won't really cause you the type of damage that will affect your life drastically. Ok, maybe your feelings might be hurt but who gives a shit.
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