When you begin to feel like you are a tough guy, a warrior, a master of the martial arts or that you have lived a tough life, just take a moment and get some perspective with the following:
I've stopped knives that were coming to disembowel me
I've clawed for my gun while bullets ripped past me
I've dodged as someone tried to put an ax in my skull
I've fought screaming steel and left rubber on the road to avoid death
I've clawed broken glass out of my body after their opening attack failed
I've spit blood and body parts and broke strangle holds before gouging eyes
I've charged into fires, fought through blizzards and run from tornados
I've survived being hunted by gangs, killers and contract killers
The streets were my home, I hunted in the night and was hunted in turn
Please don't brag to me that you're a survivor because someone hit you. And don't tell me how 'tough' you are because of your training. As much as I've been through I know people who have survived much, much worse. - Marc MacYoung
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“All I say is by way of discourse, and nothing by way of advice. I should not speak so boldly if it were my due to be believed.” - Montaigne
- Survival: the state or fact of continuing to live or exist, typically in spite of conflict and/or violence (an accident, ordeal, or difficult circumstances).
- Security: the state of being free from danger or threat; the state of feeling safe, stable, and free from fear or anxiety; the safety of a state or organization against criminal activity such as terrorism, theft, or espionage; procedures followed or measures taken to ensure the safety of a state or organization.
- Belonging: be a member or part of (a particular group, organization, or class); have the right personal or social qualities to be a member of a particular group; (of a person) fit in a specified place or environment; be rightly classified in or assigned to a specified category.
- Esteem: respect and admiration, typically for a person; respect and admire; Self-Esteem: a person's overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her own worth; a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self; beliefs about oneself, as well as emotional states, such as triumph, despair, pride, and shame; the positive or negative evaluations of the self, as in how we feel about it.
- Self-Actualization: the realization or fulfillment of one's talents and potentialities, especially considered as a drive or need present in everyone (A person who embraces the unknown and the ambiguous; who accepts themselves with all their flaws; they enjoy the journey not the destination; inherently unconventional without succumbing to shock techniques; motivated by growth, not a satisfaction of ego; have purpose in life; not troubled by small things; have gratitude and show appreciation; have close tribal relations while identifying with others; humble; resist enculturation; accept their imperfections).
- Find some commonality between the two disparate parties and open a line of communication through that channel.
- Moderate, make sure you can find reasonable and willing parties willing to work with other people.
- Be an active listener by accepting what others say and find what is true about that.
- Avoid extreme tactics, i.e., automatic urge toward disagreement, etc., as they are excuses to attack or bully.
- To foster mutual communications while actively listening ask speaker for reasons, facts and perspectives without biases.
- When disagreeing wait to hear actively the entire perspective and perception, stop and contemplate and then ask more questions for clarity, what they mean according to their beliefs, etc., and why they believe it to be so.
- Look to find what the persons perspective is that they look from.
- Avoid using your own beliefs through filtering what is being said according to your perceptions, perspectives and beliefs - remain open as possible.
- Understand the persons interpretations as to why it looks like that that person.
- Once the person has expressed their point of perspective and perception then filter that information from your perspective and perceptions while maintaining thoughts of what that persons truth might be true of and try to synthesize your side and theirs through connected commonalities, etc.